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Do you want to know the Actual Signs of a Competitive Sister in Law?

Do you have a feeling that your sister-in- law is fighting you through her annoying actions and words? If that is the case, how should be handling such circumstances wisely – Come, let me tell you!

25 warning signs of a competitive sister in law

25 Evident Signs of a Competitive Sister In Law You Should Know To Handle IT Like A PRO!

Here I have come up with a list of 25 signs that would make you understand if your sister in law (SIL) is being competitive. Read on to find out if you are able to relate to this – And YES, You NEED TO take charge of the situation positively!

1. When Your SIL Buys Exactly the Same Dress or Lipstick that You have – One of the Important Signs of a Competitive Sister in Law

Say your sister in law sets her eyes on one of your clothes or lipsticks or wallets or anything for that matter that looks all glossy and gorgeous.

If she instantly orders or vanishes to buy the exact thing that you have, it is one of the warning signs of a competitive sister in law.

But why should you get on a negative mindset in the name of a lipstick – It is just a mere item that your sister in law liked and purchased. Just let go and gain hold of your sanity.

2. When Your SIL Starts Searching for a Job Once you Join One

Say you land with a job out of your own interests, probably intending to grow professionally or achieving financial independence for yourself.

Surprisingly, when this act of yours triggers your non-working sister in law to look out for a job for herself, it means she is being competitive.

But you know what – You should be actually happy for being the reason for something good happening to your sister in law. COME ON, FEEL GOOD 🙂

3. When Your SIL plans for a Baby Once you Give the News

When your married sister in law gives out the news of her conception immediately after you give yours, it is one of the important signs of a competitive sister in law.

Again, that is completely okay – Be happy for her and get going. I don’t think this is an issue to be blown up.

4. When Your SIL Pesters your In-Laws to do Things what your Parents Do for You

Say your parents give you an expensive saree for your first Diwali at your in-laws.

And Your sister in law confronts your in-laws like this – “Appa, look what her parents have got for her. Her saree is so beautiful. I want you to get me the same as well”

Do you not think she is being competitive here – Obviously, but ignore her immaturity and mind your work. There is a lot to look for out there 🙂

5. When Your SIL Expects your In-Laws to do Things they Do for You

There are a lot of daughters who would expect their parents to do the exact things that they would do for their daughters in law.

Say, your in-laws get you a gold ring on your birthday. Isn’t that a beautiful gesture?

In such a case, when your sister in law comes forward and says, “Where is the ring for me? I want one too!”, then she is being competitive.

So what should you be doing for your part?

Leave it to your in-laws – As parents, they will know how to handle their daughter wisely. 

OR as a wise DIL, tell your in-laws to do whatever they had like to do, for both you and your SIL.

That way, your family’s peace should also get restored 🙂

DO YOU KNOW THESE 5 TRAITS OF A HEALTHY FAMILY?

6. When Your SIL Says, “She was Allowed to Wear it in her Wedding. Why not me?”

Say you wore BLUE-coloured madisar (9 Yards Saree) for your wedding. And your sister in law wants one for her wedding too.

Sadly, her future in-laws are not in favor of that color owing to some traditional constraints.

In such a case, when your sister in law pin-points you saying, “When she was allowed to wear Blue one in her wedding, why not me?”, then she is being competitive!

When daughters in law are taken for example everywhere, aren’t they taken for granted?

Anyway, what could you do about it – Ignore her childishness and get going 🙂

7. When Your SIL tries to Forcefully Establish her Presence When you are Gaining the Center-stage!

Say you are good at dancing and people are full of praises for your artistry.

In such a case, when you are dancing during one of those family occasions, if your sister in law forcefully joins you and tries to outperform you trying to gain attention from people around, then she is definitely being competitive.

Don’t you think she is being immature here?

Again, why does that matter – Dance it off 🙂

8. When Your SIL does the EXACT Haircut that You do

Say you give yourself a layer-cut(haircut) and you feel good.

After seeing this, when your sister in law goes to get the same haircut done for herself, is it not one of the signs of a competitive sister in law?

Again, this is not a problem at all. Be wise and move on 🙂

9. When Your SIL Joins Music Class, After you Do

Say, you are interested in music and you sign up for classes.

When your sister in law comes to know about it, if she immediately makes her decision to join the same classes, then she is being competitive.

Anyway, you should feel good for inspiring your sil to take up music classes – What’s wrong, music is everyone 🙂

10. When Your SIL Plans for a Vacation, Just after You Do

Say, you plan for a vacation with your partner.

After coming to know about this, when your sister in law plans one with her partner too, then she is definitely being competitive!

Hey, you have actually triggered a couple to PLAN a vacation for themselves, isn’t that AWESOME?

Feel good, let everyone be happy 🙂

11. When Your SIL tells your husband, “See how your wife’s brother is getting so many gifts for her. Why don’t you get me as well?”

Say your brother surprises you with gifts for raksha bandhan.

And your sister in law confronts your partner like this, “See! How her brother has got her a lot of gifts! Why don’t you get me too?”

Isn’t she being competitive in this case – Nevertheless, laugh off her immaturity and get going!

12. When Your SIL Makes that Initiative to Learn that Skill that you are already Good At

Say, you cook really well and your in-laws are so proud of you.

Just to break this, when your sister in law makes efforts to learn cooking, then she is being competitive.

Well, YOU ARE MAKING SOMEONE LEARN COOKING – Isn’t that GREAT?

13. When Your SIL Plans Outing with Friends Just After you Do

Say you plan for a night out with your friends and you get your in-laws nod too.

Surprisingly, when your sister in law comes up with similar plans then she is being competitive.

Okay now, why shouldn’t she plan for night outs with her friends?

Let her enjoy her life, and you, yours!

14. When Your SIL Acts Strange When She Senses that People are Fond of You

Say your partner’s relatives are fond of you, for you are respectful and gentle to them. 

In such a case, if your sister in law is competitive, she would definitely not like this love flowing to you and make all efforts to gain people’s attention towards her.

It is, without any doubt, a sign of Immaturity. 

But Love isn’t something you buy in shops, it has to originate from one’s insides. If your sil is able to achieve it as well, you should feel happy for her 🙂

15. When Your SIL makes Her Partner do Things, Your Partner Does for You

Say your Husband gets you a Gold Pendant.

Triggered by this act, if your sister in law immediately makes her partner get one for herself, then she is for sure being competitive!

It’s okay, it just indicates your sil’s immaturity – Learn from her and don’t become one yourself for your SIL 🙂

16. When Your SIL wants to Equally Grow in Status as You

Say you buy a New Car OR House.

If this makes your sister in law do the exact things in a specific span of time, it means she is being competitive.

No worries, ignore her naivety and wish her luck 🙂

17. When Your SIL Plans a Road Trip Just After you Do

Say you go on a Road Trip with your Partner.

If this turns on your sister in law and she by any means, persuades her partner as well to go on a road trip with her, then she is definitely being competitive.

Hey NO! Road trips are not just for you and your partner! Let her go, why does that matter?

Don’t take all this to your heart and strain your mental health.

18. When Your SIL Often Takes your Partner for Inspiration

Say your Partner is a good cook and helps you with all household chores.

If your sister in law takes this as an example and makes her partner help her with things, then she is being competitive.

See, it is always a good deed to set examples for people to learn and grow – That said, be happy for your SIL when her partner is turns helping too!

19. When Your SIL Tries to Make the Best Dish of Yours and Earn Praise

Say you are Good at Making Yam Fry and people in your family are so fond of it.

If your sister in law pursues the same dish sincerely and tries to bring out the same standard as you do to prove that she is no less, then she is being competitive.

Why even give heed to her competitive mind – Instead if her dish comes out really well, eat and convey your compliments to her. After all, it is not going to cost you anything!

20. When Your SIL Tries to Replicate the Same Things You Do for your Parents

Say you support your own parents financially.

Or that you get them a lot of gifts.

Knowing this, if your sister in law also tries to do the same things for her own parents, she is definitely being competitive.

Now, you actually feel that satisfaction of inspiring your SIL to do something fruitful – Why, shouldn’t every parent feel proud of their daughter’s care and support too?

21. When Your SIL Copies Whatever You do to your Partner

Say you do something Special for your Partner’s Birthday.

And your Sister in Law tries to do the same for her partner on his birthday; here, isn’t she being competitive?

Anyway, I think you have a lot of important things to focus on, why even pay attention to such behaviour?

Even if you are enraged by what your sil does, shouldn’t you start thinking about it?

How does your sil’s behaviour even matter to you?

22. When Your SIL Tries to Copy Whatever that you Do for your In-Laws

Say you GIFT a lot of things for your In-Laws.

If your Sister In Law tries to do the exact things to her in-laws just because you do, then she is being competitive.

Just ignore such things, and mind your business!

23. When Your SIL Tries to Match you Professionally

Say you get a Promotion or Salary Hike at Office.

If this stokes up your sister in law and makes her achieve promotion or salary hike at her work as well, then she is being competitive.

Beyond her competitive mindset, it is her hard-work that has earned her a reputation – So be happy for your SIL; also, feel happy because you have influenced someone as your sister in law to do something remarkable in their life!

24. When Your SIL Insists Her Husband to Relocate Just because you Have

Say you relocate to a different city owing to work reasons.

If this gets your sister in law upset and makes her relocate to a different place as well,  then she is being competitive.

It might appear MINDLESS, but why does that even matter to you?

Are you impacted in any way because your sil’s action?

25. When Your SIL Renovates her House Just After you Do

Say you get your House Revamped.

If this gets your sister in law to do similar things in her house, then she is being competitive.

Again, her money and her actions – Why should you let it affect your sanity?

Competition Never Grows Relationships!

I am a person who don’t believe in competition.

For that matter, when such a toxic element is making way between the relationship you share with your SIL, it has to be taken up seriously.

No, you cannot grow a bond where there is, “I should be better than her” OR “NO, she cannot beat me” – They neither grow your relationship with your SIL NOR help you improve as a human being.

Your SIL is Just Another Human Being – Acknowledge that Fact and Stay Wise!

Who does’t make mistakes in this world?

All of us are humans and we, by default are at fault in some way or the other.

That said, don’t encourage this competition that is originating in your sil to affect the relationship you share with her.

Her childish attitude is just her identity, don’t let it strain your sanity and character!

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