Should women impress their in laws?
As a daughter-in-law myself, I have countless reasons to why women should not focus on pleasing their parents-in laws. Let’s get started with the graphic below –
Should Women Impress Their In Laws – 23 Eye-Opening Pointers!
These 23 revelations will make you question your habit of striving to impress your in-laws.
Ready To Lose Your Uniqueness, To Meet Your In-Laws’ Taste-Buds?
Are you that DIL that cooks with an intent to meet your in-laws’ expectations? Also, fearing rejection from their end?
What if they don’t not acknowledge your work, wouldn’t you feel disappointed?
In case they reciprocate your gesture with a whole-heart, it will make you happy but in the first place, why should you even seek their approval?
Why do you have to lose yourself in the process of impressing them? Why should you give your in-laws the space to judge you?
Ready To Follow Your In-Laws’ Ideal Practices, Compromising Yours?
What is wrong in cooking Rasam (A South-Indian Delicacy) in your style, that is completely different from the MIL’s?
What, She doesn’t receive it well? But Isn’t that your style of cooking after all?
If you try to cook it the way your MIL does, would you not end up giving up your way of doing things?
Ready To Give Up On Your Career, Because Your In-Laws Are Not Interested In It?
Consider you are ambitious which is against your in-laws’ ideals.
To keep them satisfied, would you give up on your aspirations?
By doing so, would you not deceive yourself?
Are You Okay To Stop Supporting Your Parents, As Your In-Laws Do Not Approve Of It?
Let’s say you are a single child and would like to take care of your parents.
But when your in-laws are against the idea, how would you go about it?
Should you give up on your parents just to make peace with your in-laws’ views?
Can You Stop Visiting Your Parents, Because Your In-Laws Do Not Like It?
Daughters visiting their parents is still viewed as a taboo in India. Why is that so?
Say you feel home-sick and wish to visit your parents but your in-laws are not in favour of it.
Would you still give in to their thoughts to satisfy them & dare to give up on your emotions?
In that case, aren’t you being unfair to yourself?
Would You Stop Providing Financial Assistance To Your Parents, If Your In-Laws Are Against It?
What if your in-laws do not like you sharing your salary with your parents?
Would you stop doing it just to stay in your in-laws’ good books?
As a responsible daughter, shouldn’t you actually be supporting your parents in every possible way?
Okay To Lose Your Personal Space, To Fit In With Your In-Laws’ Expectations?
How would you feel being interrupted by your mother-in-law while doing an important research pertaining to your work?
AND what if she instructs you with some other responsibility?
Would you easily leave your pertinent work fearing her disappointment with you?
Would that not affect your personal space, work, and time?
Would You Not Invite Your Friends Home, Because Your In-Laws Do Not Encourage It?
Say you wish to invite your close friends for dinner on your anniversary.
So would you quit your plan if your in-laws do not like it?
In the name of impressing your in-laws, should you compromise on your small desires?
Will You Stop Voicing Out Your Views In Family Discussions, As Your In-Laws Might Object To It?
As a member of the family, a DIL has a role to play in family discussions as well.. But most of them don’t, fearing objection from the in-laws.
Shouldn’t a DIL open up when there is a necessity?
Just because your in-laws do not encourage it, would you keep things locked up inside all the time?
Will You Have Children, Because Your In-Laws Desire For It?
Say your in-laws keep pressuring you to have a child.
Just by the way of keeping them satisfied, would you have a child?
Will You Give Up On Your Ways, Because Your In-Laws Dislike It?
Say your traditional in-laws expect you to be in saree all the time, while you prefer to wield a casual look.
So will you switch to wearing sarees to stay in your in-laws’ good books?
Will You Stop Speaking Up For Yourself, Even While Your In-Laws Are Being Unfair?
How would you handle your in-laws when they keep passing jibes at you?
Despite being frustrated, would you still remain quiet to their unmindful talks?
Carrying your positive traits is no wrong but when there is a necessity, shouldn’t you shed your inhibitions and speak up?
By not standing up for yourself, if you think you are impressing your in-laws, then I am sorry to say that you are mistaken. You only end up giving your in-laws limitless freedom to offend you without any second thoughts!
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Will You Quit Your Plans, If Your In-Laws Oppose It?
Say you plan to visit your best friend for lunch.
To your dismay, what if your in-laws oppose your plan?
Would you drop your agenda just to please your in-laws?
That way, would you not end up cheating yourself?
Will You Raise Your Child On The Lines Of Patriarchy, Because Your In-Laws Encourage It?
Consider your in-laws are ardent-practitioners of patriarchy and do not like your son doing kitchen work.
But what if such an attitude is against your ideals?
Would you still stop your son from doing domestic work to satisfy your in-laws? Would you give up on your principles so easily?
Will Not Stop Your Hubby From Helping You, If Your In-Laws Do Not Like It?
How would you feel if your mother-in-law opposes your spouse helping you with cooking and cleaning?
Would you restrain him from doing such work just because your MIL is against the idea?
Do you think impressing her is more important?
Will You Drop Your Vacation Plans With Your Spouse, IF your In-Laws Are Not Happy About IT?
What if your in-laws consider that spending money on vacations is a bad idea?
How would you feel if they go against your holiday plans with your spouse to a hill station?
Will you drop the plans to make up for your in-laws’s dismay towards you?
Is it more important to impress your in-laws by staking your private space with your partner?
Will You Stop Spending For Yourself, If Your In-Laws Do Not Approve Of It?
Say you love reading books and you don’t mind shelling out additional bucks every month to shop your favourite books.
So once you realise your in-laws do not like your spending habit, would you stop shopping books?
Should women impress their in laws by quitting whatever they like?
Will You Let Your In-Laws Hinder Your Private Space, Despite Them Breaching Their Boundaries?
Is it even right of the in-laws to interfere in your personal affairs?
Just to keep your in-laws happy, would you keep encouraging them to meddle in your marriage?
Isn’t that committing a grave injustice to your relationship with your spouse?
Will You Telephone Your In-Laws And Relatives Even When Forced, Just To Keep Them Satisfied?
Say your in-laws expect you to call them every now and then.
Despite your reservations, would you still follow their advice unwillingly to keep them happy?
Will You Not Do/Buy Something, Because Your In-Laws Don’t Like IT?
Say you are a working person, and with aged in-laws at home, you prefer to buy groceries online.
But how would you deal with it if your in-laws don’t approve of your practice?
Do you think by compromising on small things like these, you could take a place in your in-laws’ heart? If yes, what is the point?
Do You Hesitate To Say NO, If It Is Against Your In-Laws’ Will?
Say you have an important meeting on a given day at work when your in-laws force you to attend a relative’s marriage.
Would you drop your meeting to attend the marriage to please your in-laws?
Wouldn’t that question your priorities and preferences in life?
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Will You Not Dare To Make Independent Decisions, Because Your In-Laws Do Not Like It?
Say you wish to pursue your Phd while your in-laws are against the idea.
So would you give up on your plans just because your in-laws are not in favour of it?
Tell me, what justification do you have when you make such a drastic decision? Is impressing your in-laws more important than your dreams?
Ready To Do Anything, That Your In-Laws Expect From You?
Say your in-laws expect you to take up more responsibilities and force you to do them.
Would you abide by their expectations, do them all, against your capacity? Shouldn’t you respect your limitations and constraints in that case?
What use is trying to impress your in-laws under such circumstances?
ARE YOU READY TO COMPROMISE YOUR WHOLE LIFE BECAUSE YOUR IN-LAWS WILL THINK BAD OF YOU?
To conclude, differences are bound to exist in every relationship, so there is no point in daughters-in-law trying to impress their in-laws. I feel it is high time that DILS understand themselves better and work on only fulfilling their moral obligations towards their in-laws, instead of striving to satisfy their unfair expectations.
Please Live your life on your terms, let your in-laws accept you the way you are.
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