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There are endless nice things to say to your daughter in law that would take your relationship to a whole new level. 

I have come up with a list of beautiful things that is absolutely genuine, straight from my heart. I am sure these will touch your daughter-in-law’s heart too!

16 nice things to say to your daughter in law

15 Nice Things To Say To Your Daughter in Law That Will Win Her Heart!

Read them for yourself 🙂

1. “You Are What Your Parents Made You. At Any Point, You Should Never Let them Down”

Problems arise between in-laws and daughters-in-law when there are UNNECESSARY DISCUSSIONS about the latter’s family.

In order to avoid such instances, you should ensure to work out situations where you are in complete peace with your daughter-in- law’s family.

Some times my MIL would say “Your father had done extraordinary arrangements for the wedding. Without his efforts, it wouldn’t have been as grand as it was.”

Instead of complaining, in-laws should try bringing out the positives of their daughter-in-law’s families. I bet it would make your DIL happy too and also induce a sense of respect in her for you!

2. “You Never Fail to Take Care of Us No Matter What! We Are Blessed With A Kind Daughter-In-Law”

When you are not in good health, you definitely need someone’s help.

Under such situations when your daughter-in-law comes to your rescue, shouldn’t you acknowledge her gesture and stay grateful?

Take this case.

I have noticed a lot of times my Aunt sharing her gratitude to her DIL, “If not for Meera, I dunno what we would have done when I was hospitalised”.

She still feels and remembers her daughter-in-law’s help. Is this not what being human all about?

Feeling that gratitude deep inside for your daughter in law’s help however small it is, will help you build a cordial relationship with her in the long run.

16 nice things to say to your daughter in law

3. “I am Glad that you Helped me Out. Thank you So Much”

There would be times when you might actually be struggling with something; or looking for better suggestions to buy something.

During such times, when your daughter-in-law gets things sorted for you, shouldn’t you acknowledge her?

I remember helping out my mother-in-law once with her phone settings. I am sure she felt so relieved and glad about that.


4. “May God Bless you, My Dear Daughter”

Whether it is your daughter-in-law’s Birthday OR Anniversary OR probably she reaches heights professionally OR for that matter, any milestone she might achieve in her life; shouldn’t you be the first to bless her with all your heart?

When you shower that magic upon your daughter-in-law, it would not just make her joyful but also make her count on you for all the highs and lows of her life.

Considering today’s scenario where there is a complete disengagement between the in-laws and the daughters-in-law, such graceful gestures by you would aid in forging a good relationship with your daughter-in-law.

5. “How Much You Struggle To Support This Family! It Means A Lot To Us” 

When your daughter-in-law is ready to support you financially OR is already doing so, it is for sure a sign of how much she values you.

Even smiling OR making a cup of coffee for her when she returns home from work would make for a kind gesture acknowledging her contribution to running the family. 

Trust me, this is one of the ways to building a healthy family too!


6. “We Love It The Way You Stay Respectful Of Everyone”

In today’s world where values are fast-receding, finding respectful PEOPLE in itself is a rarity.

Considering that aspect, when you notice your daughter-in-law being respectful of you and your relatives, you should be appreciative of it.

I have seen my mother quip a couple of times, “Subha is being very respectful of elders. Look how she is treating everyone with a smile. That is how daughters-in-law should be”

Here, my mother was referring to one of our relatives and as a third person, she was feeling happy about the girl.

When my mother could feel that way for someone else’s daughter-in-law, what of Subha’s in-laws? Wouldn’t they feel overwhelmed too? 

7. “How Sweet Of You In Making Our Day So Special. Thank You so Much”  – One Of The Nice Things To Say to Your Daughter in Law!

When you ACTUALLY experience your daughter-in-law’s LOVE in the form of surprises OR gifts OR special gestures during a special occasion like your birthday OR anniversary, shouldn’t you feel happy about it?

You don’t have to move mountains to reciprocate her gesture; an instant “thank you” OR a smile is more than enough to do the work.

8. “How Are You Doing, my dear? Do You Feel Happy with Us?”

Like how you expect your daughter-in-law to take care of you, don’t you think you are responsible for her well-being too?

When you start treating your daughter-in-law like your own daughter, you naturally start caring for her.

Probably when she is not keeping well,  you could ask, “How are you doing, my dear?”

Though a simple gesture, it makes a huge difference. For no act is greater than being empathetic 🙂

9. “Sorry About Disturbing Your Work. I Didn’t Really Mean to” 

There shall be times when you might unknowingly inconvenience your daughter-in-law.

It could be hampering her work OR routine OR a task at hand. OR it could be your behaviour that would have hurt her unintentionally. But shouldn’t that be sorted out immediately?

“Sorry” is one powerful word that could set things straight in your relationship with your DIL.

10. “Our Bellies Are Turning Pot-Sized. How Could You Cook So Well?”

Being an experienced Mother-in-Law means you have a better experience at Cooking. But does that mean you could expect the same kind of deftness from your daughter in law as well?

Not fair, ain’t it?

Instead why not be kind enough to appreciate your daughter-in-law whenever she makes an effort to prepare a special meal for you?

After all, the output might not be great, but the love with which she prepares is what that makes the difference.

I always take my father for inspiration in this case. Every time that my Sister in Law OR I cook something for him, he would be like, “Darling, the food is extraordinary! Would you believe it? I am having two handfuls extra”

Isn’t that sweet of him?

Appreciation doesn’t cost anything. It is just a way of showing respect and love to a daughter-in-law who is wholeheartedly doing something for her parents-in-law. 

It will not only grow your relationship stronger but also motivate her to do more for you. After all, isn’t that how relationships evolve? 

11. “You Work So Hard Through Thick & Thin. You Definitely Need Some Rest”

With most of the daughters in law juggling between Work and Home Chores these days, things get really hard on them on a daily basis.

Considering the kind of hormonal imbalances women undergo, they sure require some respite to keep going, isn’t it?

If you are not sure, you shall try spotting that frustration showing up in your Daughter-in-Law’s face sometimes. Aren’t they human beings after all?

If you cannot support her through your actions, why not at least take that step recognising her efforts for your family?

At times, when I am on my periods, cleaning the house, my mother-in-law would ask me, “Akila, can I do it? You must not be feeling well”

Isn’t that a beautiful gesture? I bet it gave me such warmth and happiness I cannot express. 

And I believe such a kind gesture would definitely have a positive impact on any daughter-in-law; leaving a lasting impression on her heart.

Do you not think this is one of the nice things to say to your daughter-in-law?

12. “You Tirelessly Work For The Family. I Hope I Could Be As Supportive”

Naturally, anyone would find it difficult to handle all the responsibilities of the house single-handed.

That said, when your daughter-in-law volunteers to help you with cleaning OR cooking OR even helping you with the payment of electricity bills, wouldn’t that lessen your workload a bit? 

Every time I serve my Father-in-law with a glass of hot water, he acknowledges with a “thank you” which would instantly lighten up my mood.

Can’t you relate this as well?

Trust me, when you start showing such warm gestures to your daughter-in-law, you are paving way for a strong relationship.

13. “We Are Always There to Support You”

Not many in-laws are supportive of their daughters-in-law in terms of their career OR professional growth. 

But if you are one, CHEERS to you 🙂

Take the case of My Father-in-law. He once said, “It is never too late for anyone to Pursue Their INTERESTS. If you are Passionate About Literature, Why Not Pursue It?”

It did have a deep impact within me and I instantly felt connected to him. If only everyone got such a Father-in-Law, wouldn’t that be GREAT?

Remember, every supportive word uttered by you is a nice thing said to your daughter in law.

14. “Can I Make Your Favourite Dosas for Dinner?”

It is sad to note that most Daughters-in-Law are still being viewed as a mere caretaker of the family. 

Is it not high time, in-laws give up such thinking and understand their DILS better?

Sometimes my mother-in-law asks me, “Akila, Shall I make Paruppu Rasam (A South Indian Cuisine) today?” (Paruppu Rasam being my favorite)

Not only that, she will also ENSURE to serve the tomatoes in the rasam, again my FAV!

Isn’t she the SWEETEST?

15. “I am Going To The Supermarket. Do You Want Me To Get Something For You?”

You don’t have to necessarily buy something for your daughter-in-law every now and then. But well, Asking doesn’t hurt.

“I am going to the supermarket. Should I buy something for you?”

Such gestures would for sure bind your relationship with your daughter-in-law and make it more cordial.


Ok, so what of those galore of differences you have with her? Chuck them out coz’ now more than ever , it is crucial to make your daughter-in-law feel inclusive and loved. Time to summon a good parent-in-law’s instincts:)


How did you like these suggestions to bond well with a daughter-in-law? Share your thoughts in the comments below.