Why vilify only that association you share with your dil? Which relationship doesn’t have hiccups? This is why you need to know these numerous nice things to say to your daughter in law to make her feel bonded with you like never before.
I know you would have a galore of differences with her, but as a family member it is crucial to making your daughter in law feel inclusive. When you could achieve it through your words, what else do you need?
16 Nice things to Say to Your Daughter in Law that will Transform your Relationship LIKE NEVER BEFORE!
When there could be a lot to reckon about, there is also more to appreciate about your DIL. Trust me and exercise these 16 Amazing things with her, you would end up establishing a bond with your daughter in law that the world starts noticing!
1. “You Cook Really Nice Food for us”
Of Course, being an experienced Mother in Law means you would have a better experience at Cooking.
But does that mean you could expect the same kind of deftness from your daughter in law as well?
So be kind enough to appreciate your daughter in law whenever she makes an effort to prepare a special meal for you. The dish might not be great, but the love with which she prepares is what that matters here.
I take my father for inspiration in this case. Every time that my Sister in Law OR I cook something for him, he would be like, “Darling, the food is extraordinary! Would you believe it? I am having two handfuls extra”
Isn’t that Sweet of him?
Appreciation doesn’t cost you anything – It is just a way of showing respect and love to daughter-in-law who is wholeheartedly doing something for you.
It will not only grow your relationship stronger but also motivate her to do more for you. After all, isn’t that how relationships are defined?
2. “You Work So Hard Through Thick & Thin”
With most of the daughters in law juggling between Work and Home Chores these days, things are really hard on them on a daily basis and they make a lot of compromises along the process.
Considering the kind of hormonal imbalances women undergo, they sure require some respite to keep them going, isn’t it?
If you are not sure, you shall try spotting that frustration showing in your Daughter in Law’s face at times. Aren’t they human beings too?
If you are not able to support her through your actions, why not at least take that step recognising her efforts for your family?
At times, when I am on my periods, cleaning the house, my mother in law would ask me, “Akila, can I do it? You must not be feeling well”
Isn’t that a beautiful gesture?
I bet it gave me such warmth and happiness.
And I believe such a kind gesture would definitely have a positive impact on any daughter in law; leaving a lasting impression on her heart.
Isn’t this one of the nice things to say to your daughter in law?
3. “You Never Stop Taking Care Of the Household Work. Now, I’m Going to Stay Supportive Of You As Much As Possible”
Naturally, anyone would find it difficult to handle all the responsibilities of the house single-handed.
That said, when your daughter in law volunteers to help you with cleaning OR cooking OR even helping you with the payment of electricity bills, wouldn’t that lessen your workload a bit at least?
Every time I serve my Father-in-law with a glass of hot water, he acknowledges with a “thank you” which would instantly lighten up my mood.
Can’t you relate as well?
Trust me, when you start showing such warm gestures to your daughter in law, you are contributing to that strong bond with her.
4. “Your Parents have Done a lot for You. You should Never Let them Down”
One of the major problems between the in-laws and daughters-in-law ensue when there are UNNECESSARY DISCUSSIONS about the latter’s family.
In order to avoid such instances, you should ensure to work out situations where you are in complete peace with your daughter in law’s family.
Some times my MIL would say “Your father had done extraordinary arrangements for the wedding. Without his efforts, it wouldn’t have been as grand as it was.”
Once in a While My Father would also mention to my sister in law, “Your parents had done a great job in your wedding despite their shortcomings. Nobody could point hands at them for any reason”
Instead of finding faults, in-laws should try bringing out the positives of their daughter-in-law’s families – I bet that would make your DIL happy and also induce a sense of respect for you!
5. “You Never Fail to Take Care of Us, No Matter What! We are Forever Indebted to You”
When you are not in good health, you would definitely need someone’s help.
Under such situations when your daughter-in-law comes forward to help you, you should acknowledge her gesture and stay grateful.
Take this case.
I have noticed a lot of times my Aunt sharing her gratitude to her DIL, “If not for Meera, I dunno what we would have done when I was hospitalised”.
She still feels and remembers her dil’s help – Is this not what being human all about?
Feeling that gratitude deep inside for your daughter in law’s help however small it is, will help you build a cordial relationship with her.
6. “I am Glad that you Helped me Out. Thank you So Much”
There would be times when you might actually be struggling to fix something.
There would also be times when you would be looking to buy something.
During such times, when your daughter-in-law comes comes as a blessing in disguise and gets things sorted for you, shouldn’t you acknowledge her?
I remember helping out my mother-in-law once with her phone settings. I am sure she felt so relieved and glad about that.
7. “May God Bless you, My Dear”
Whether it is your daughter in law’s Birthday OR Anniversary OR probably she reaches heights professionally OR any milestone she achieves in her life, shouldn’t you bless her with all your heart?
“God Bless you” are the three MOST powerful words that could instil positivity and hope in people.
When you shower that magic upon your daughter in law, it would not just make her joyful but also make her count on you for all the highs and lows of her life.
Considering today’s scenario where there is a complete disengagement between the in-laws and the daughters-in-law, such graceful gestures by you would aid in forging a good relationship with your daughter in law.
8. “You Struggle so Hard to Support this Family. That Means a Lot”
When your daughter in law is ready to support you financially OR is already doing so, it is for sure a sign of how much she values you both.
That said, Shouldn’t you acknowledge her?
Even smiling OR making a cup of coffee for her when she returns home from work would ensure to reveal the kind of respect that you have built for her.
Trust me, this is one of the ways to building a healthy family too!
9. “I am Happy that you Treat all Our Relatives with Respect. They Must be Glad too”
In today’s world where values are fast-receding sadly, finding respectful PEOPLE in itself is remarkable.
Considering that aspect, when you notice your daughter in law being respectful of you and your relatives, you should be appreciative of it.
I have seen My Mother quip quite a couple of times, “Subha is being very respectful of elders. Look how she is treating everyone with a smile and good manners. That’s how daughters in law should be”
Here, my mother was referring to one of our relatives and as a third person, she was feeling happy about that girl.
When my mother could feel that way for someone else’s daughter-in-law, shouldn’t Subha’s in-laws feel overwhelmed too?
10. “How Sweet of You in Making our Day So Special. Thank You so Much” – One Of The Nice Things To Say to Your Daughter in Law!
When you ACTUALLY experience your daughter-in-law’s LOVE in the form of surprises OR gifts OR special gestures during a special occasion like your birthday OR anniversary, shouldn’t you feel happy about it?
You don’t have to move mountains to reciprocate her gesture; an instant “thank you” OR a smile is more than enough to do the work.
11. “How are you Doing, my dear? Do You Feel Happy with Us?”
Like how you expect your daughter-in-law to take care of you, don’t you think you are responsible for her well-being too?
When you start treating your daughter in law like your own daughter, concern and care become its’ byproducts.
Probably when she is not keeping well, and you should ask, “How are you doing, my dear?”
Don’t ask me, this is a simple gesture, how is that going to change things?
Yes, it might appear simple – But isn’t that humanly after all?
Remember, a small act of kindness will change a lot for your DIL internally.
12. “Sorry about Disturbing your Work. I Didn’t Really Mean to”
There shall be times when you might unknowingly cause some form of inconvenience to your daughter in law.
It could be something hampering her work OR routine OR task at hand.
OR it could be your behaviour that would have hurt her unintentionally.
But shouldn’t that be sorted out immediately?
“Sorry” is one strong word that could set straight in your relationship with your DIL. Saying it doesn’t make anyone any less – I strongly believe it is a relationship saviour that could beat any huge crisis in a whiff.
13. “Nothing should come between You and Your Dreams. We are Always there to Support You”
Not many in-laws are supportive of their daughters-in-law in terms of their career OR professional growth.
But if you are one, CHEERS to you 🙂
Take the case of My Father- in-law. He Once Said, “It is never too late for anyone to Pursue Their INTERESTS. If you are Passionate About Literature, Why Not Pursue It?”
That statement from him had a deep impact within and I instantly felt connected to him.
If only everyone got such a Father-in-Law, wouldn’t that be GREAT?
Remember, every supportive word uttered by you is a nice thing said to your daughter in law.
14. “Can I make your Favourite Dosas for Dinner?”
It is sad to note that most Daughters-in-Law are still being viewed as a mere caretaker of the family.
Is it not high time, in-laws give up on such thinking and find out what their DILS like and dislike?
Sometimes My Mother in law asks, “Akila, Shall I do Paruppu Rasam (A South Indian Cuisine) for you Today?” (Paruppu Rasam being my favorite)
She will also ENSURE to serve those tomatoes in the rasam, Again my FAV!
Isn’t she the SWEETEST?
15. “I am Going to the Supermarket. Do you want me to Get Something for you?”
You don’t have to necessarily buy something for your daughter in law every now and then. But well, Asking doesn’t hurt.
“I am going to the supermarket. Do you need anything?”
“I am going to the bazaar. Do you want anything?”
Such gestures would for sure bind your relationship with your daughter in law and make it more cordial.
16. “Please take Some Rest. You are Already Working So Hard”
Is your daughter-in-law someone struggling for the well-being of your family?
If you agree, don’t you think she deserves some form of an emotional support?
Even a small acknowledgement like – “Don’t you need some Rest? How much you slog for this house!”
Trust me, such gestures would make her more loyal and dedicated towards your family.
WORDS are Powerful – That is Why You Should Use Them To Build The Best Relationship With Your Daughter-in-Law!
Words hold a lot of meaning and pave way for a galore of good changes in your relationships.
When you as In-laws make it a habit to say nice things to your daughter in law, you will pave way not just for a good bond with your dil but also a peaceful home. Isn’t that what families are for?
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