What are those overlooked problems of daughters in law?
What are those little distressing moments they face at their marital homes that neither the families nor the society takes notice of?
When Would In-Laws Open Up Their Eyes To These 18 Overlooked Problems Of Daughters in law?
Here are 18 lesser-known problems that DILS encounter in their everyday lives –
Most Parents-In-Laws Never CHECK On Their DILS’ Emotional Well-Being
Imagine the plight of a woman who leave behind her family to live with her spouse and in-laws. Wouldn’t she undergo a lot of emotional turbulence?
Shouldn’t In-laws understand this and facilitate a friendly ambiance to their DIL?
Shouldn’t they enquire their DIL’s well-being every now and then?
Instead of letting them withdraw to their shells, shouldn’t in-laws brighten things up for them and make them feel at peace?
In-Laws Never See That Their DILS Are NEW To Their Home & Practices
For a newly married woman, it is quite a challenge to fit in her marital home. Right from those regular practices to the space she is in, everything offer a completely different experience to her.
Let’s say a daughter-in-law is forced by her in-laws to draw water from the well when she isn’t used to such practices at her home.
How would the DIL feel in such a case? Shouldn’t the in-laws be mindful of their dil’s situation in such a case?
Shouldn’t the in-laws realise that their daughter-in-law come from a different background altogether and make an effort to make her feel comfortable?
In-Laws Demand The DILS To Strictly Follow Their Traditions
By default, in-laws expect their daughter-in-law to instantly equip with the traditions and culture of her marital home. Is that even fair?
Shouldn’t they realize that their DIL come from a different family who follow different traditions?
Shouldn’t they see that their daughter-in-law is just married and that she is new to their festivities and rituals?
Shouldn’t they respect their DIL for what she is instead of commanding her to follow their instructions?
In-Laws NEVER Understand The Impact Their Unnecessary Jibes Have Over Their DILS
Let’s say a mother-in-law targets her newly married DIL like, “You know what? We got a better proposal for our son before yours. They called back to check on us a few days ago!”
How would the daughter-in-law feel when a MIL comments this? Wouldn’t she feel unaccepted by her new family members?
Do you not think in-laws should be more responsible while speaking to their dil?
Had it been their daughter, would they have resorted to such heart-wrenching talks? Why do in-laws find it difficult to treat their DIL as a human at the least?
They NEVER Worry About Their DILS And Their Basic Needs
When in-laws outrightly expect their DIL to take care of them and their needs, shouldn’t they also realize their responsibilities towards the latter?
Shouldn’t they, as responsible parents-in-law, take care of their DILS’ needs too?
Don’t you think by taking care of their DIL’s requirements, in-laws shall facilitate a secure and happy environment for her?
As parents-in-law, shouldn’t they realize while failing in their duties towards their DIL they are not following their moral obligations?
In-Laws OVER-BURDEN Their DILS
Whether the DIL is working OR not, most in-laws expect her to take care of all domestic responsibilities.
The problem here is, they do not see the struggle their DIL go through both physically and mentally to support her family
Why? Shouldn’t the same sense of responsibility prevail in in-laws too towards their family?
Shouldn’t they understand their dil and give her a helping hand?
In-Laws Don’t Understand That Their DILS Could Feel HOME-SICK Too
It is not uncommon to see in-laws showing their despair when the daughter-in-law expresses her wish to visit her parents.
I don’t understand, what is wrong in it? Wouldn’t a DIL feel home-sick too? Wouldn’t she miss her parents too?
Rather why do they challenge their DIL with undue restrictions and mindless comments?
Such instances could make any DIL sick causing undue stress in her.
In-Laws Never Respect Their DILS
Let’s say a mother-in-law decides to go to her relatives’ place and asks her daughter-in-law to get ready without checking on her availability.
How would the daughter-in-law feel assuming she is having a different engagement the same day?
That said, shouldn’t in-laws make efforts to hear their DIL out?
Shouldn’t they understand that they cannot take their daughter-in-law for granted?
In-Laws Don’t Understand The CONCEPT Of Their DILS’ Private Space
Is it wrong for the daughter-in-law to dedicate some space and time for herself?
How would she feel when her in-laws don’t respect that space and cramps her time with other tasks?
Let’s say a daughter-in-law is spending her time cleaning her shelves. Wouldn’t she feel bad when her mother-in-law intervenes her for some other not so urgent work?
Shouldn’t the in-laws understand that their DIL could have her personal space too? Shouldn’t they be respectful of the fact?
In-Laws FAIL To Understand The INDEPENDENCE Of The DILS
What most in-laws fail to realize is that their DILS have equal rights and say over things in their families.
Just because they are the DILS, do in-laws forget that these women are a part of their families and wives to their son?
Shouldn’t they understand that their DIL is entitled to express her opinions on family matters?
Why then restrain HER from practicing the independence she deserves?
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Overpowering In-Laws CONTROL Their Son Unbothered Of Their DILS’ Life
Instead of welcoming their DIL with an open mind and making her a part of their family, overpowering in-laws make it more difficult for the DIL by going against her.
Shouldn’t they, as matured people, facilitate a good environment for both their Son and DIL to live their new lives happily together?
Why do most in-laws prefer to adopt CONTROL over INCLUSIVENESS over their DILS with the help of their son?
Why don’t they understand the consequences of their actions over their son’s marriage life in the long run? Isn’t it high time for a change on this front?
In-Laws INTERFERE In Matters Concerning Their Son And DILS Mindlessly
Most parents in law fail to understand the personal space that exists between their son and DIL.
Overlooking this fact, in most cases,in-laws try to intervene in matters personal to the husband and wife duo.
Let’s say a DIL is having a small argument with her spouse and her in-laws intervene in the discussion when it is absolutely not required of.
Would it be right of them to do so? Shouldn’t in-laws know their boundaries?
Some In-Laws IMPEDE The Private Life Of Their DILS And Son
Let’s say a mother-in-law enters her married son’s room without knocking the door. Is that even sensible?
Shouldn’t the MIL understand the privacy of the couple?
What if this becomes a regular affair?
Would it not invite unnecessary trouble?
Most In-Laws Don’t See Their DILS’ NEED For Financial Independence
Many parents restrict their DILS from working. But what I don’t understand is, is it not for the DILS to make decisions on this front?
Needless to say, in a country like ours where Social Conditioning is rampant, the well-conditioned DILS are forced to abide by their in-laws’ words.
Is it not high time in-laws realize the impact of their restrictions on their dil?
Shouldn’t they understand the need for their DILS’ financial independence?
In-Laws ASSUME That Their DILS Are Their Default Domestic-Helpers
By default, most in-laws expect their DILS to take care of all the house-hold chores no matter what and take them for granted.
Is that how a healthy family works?
Is it not fundamental for all family members to contribute to home management?
Why don’t in-laws treat their DILS as equals and respect them?
In-Laws FORCE Their Views On Their DILS Not Bothered About Their Consent
Parents-in-laws make their decisions and force them on their DILS without seeing the necessity to ask the latter.
By doing so, in-laws not only disrespect their DILS but also take them for granted.
Let’s say a daughter-in-law is forced to not visit her parents when she has actually planned and booked her tickets. Wouldn’t that upset her?
How long should DILS compromise for things they don’t have to?
They Never Understand The Responsibilities Of A DAUGHTER
As daughters, women are entitled to support their parents both physically and financially.
That said, why don’t in-laws understand their DILS are equally responsible towards their parents?
I have seen in-laws who crib about their DILS giving their salary to their parents. What is wrong if they do so? When in-laws could expect their son to support them financially, what is wrong if their DIL’s parents expect the same of their daughters?
By posing challenges like these, in-laws remain a threat to a daughter-parent relationship. Shouldn’t this situation change for the better?
In-Laws Never Make An Effort To TREAT Their DILS As Their Family
Most dils face umpteen inhibitions around their in-laws. Be it asking some extra food OR a cup of coffee, they aren’t made to feel comfortable.
Does it not mean daughters-in-law do not feel INCLUSIVE in their marital homes?
Does it not mean in-laws should facilitate a comfortable environment for their DILS to shoo away their inhibitions and hesitations?
Shouldn’t in-laws make efforts to make their DILS feel at HOME?
To Conclude, Start Treating Your Daughters-in-law Like a Daughter – Don’t Let Them SUFFER SILENTLY!
Without any doubt the bigger responsibility now lies on the husbands and in-laws to facilitate a comfortable ambience for their wives & daughters-in-law.
They have left their parents behind to LIVE with YOU. So BE KIND & TREAT THEM RESPECTFULLY. Never Let Them Shed even a drop of TEAR!
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