Isn’t that a bad sign that there is a galore of Overlooked problems of daughters in law in this society?
Sadly, Daughters in law face a number of issues in their day to day lives which go completely unnoticed. What are they? And Shouldn’t parents-in-laws make efforts to understand them?
Keep reading to find out!
18 Overlooked Problems Of Daughters in law You Must Know!
Here is a list of 18 lesser-known problems that DILS encounter in their everyday lives. Here it goes –
1. In-Laws Don’t UNDERSTAND That Their DILS Are New To Their Traditions
By default, in-laws assume that their daughters in law are equipped with the knowledge of the traditions and culture of their family.
Shouldn’t they understand that their expectation is wrong?
Shouldn’t they see that their daughters in law are just married and that they are new to their festivities and rituals?
Shouldn’t they realize that their DILS come from a different family with different traditions?
That said, why do they demean their DILS when they are not aware of their practices?
Is that even fair?
Do you not see this as one of the overlooked problems of daughters in law?
2. In-Laws Don’t See That Their DILS Are NEW To Their Family
For most women, their marital homes wouldn’t be the same as their parents’ home.
That said, aspects like the practices their in-laws’ would follow and their space, will altogether be a different experience for the DILS. Isn’t it?
Say a daughter in law is forced by her in-laws to fetch water from the well, which wouldn’t have been the case in her home. Wouldn’t such a thing be hard for her?
What if in-laws force their practices like this on their DILS unmindful of the latter’s situation?
Shouldn’t in-laws try to understand things from their DILS’ perspective?
Shouldn’t they realize that their daughters in law come from a different background?
Shouldn’t they make them feel comfortable and grant them the space they deserve?
3. Most Parents-In-Laws Never CHECK On Their DILS’ Emotional Well-Being
Imagine the plight of the DILS who leave their families behind to live with their spouse and in-laws.
Wouldn’t they undergo a lot of emotional turbulence?
Shouldn’t In-laws understand this and facilitate a friendly ambiance for their DILS?
Shouldn’t they enquire their DIL’s well-being every now and then?
Instead of letting them withdraw to their shells, shouldn’t in-laws brighten things up for them and make them feel at peace?
Tell me, do you not see this as one of the overlooked problems of daughters in law?
4. In-Laws NEVER Understand The Impact Of Their Unnecessary Jibes At Their DILS – One of the Most Important Overlooked Problems of daughters in law
Most of the parents in law are least bothered by what they say to their daughters in law.
The arrogance they show through their mindless talks and behaviour creates a hostile environment for the latter which isn’t a good thing for their relationship.
Say a mother in law points out to her newly married DIL, “You know what? We got a better proposal for our son before yours. They even called back to check on us a few days ago!”
How would the daughter in law feel in this case? Wouldn’t her MIL’s words shatter her?
Do you not think in-laws should be more responsible in their words and communication?
Had it been their daughter, would they have resorted to such unfair practices?
That said, Shouldn’t in-laws become more mindful of what they talk to their DILS?
5. Some In-Laws NEVER Worry About Their DILS And Their Basic Needs
When in-laws outrightly expect their DILS to take care of them and their needs, shouldn’t they realize the importance of their responsibilities towards the latter?
Shouldn’t they, as responsible parents-in-law, take care of their DILS’ needs too?
Don’t you think by taking care of their DIL’s requirements, in-laws could facilitate a secure and happy environment for them?
On the contrary, when in-laws neglect their DILS, they not only go against their morality but also push their DILS into isolation and home-sickness.
As parents-in-law, shouldn’t they realize when they are failing in their duties towards their DILS?
Why are they being unfair?
Are RESPONSIBILITIES just restricted to the DILS?
I feel it is high time that in-laws take notice of such overlooked problems of daughters in law! Don’t you agree?
6. In-Laws OVER-BURDEN Their DILS With Work
Whether their DILS are working or not, in-laws by default expect them to take care of all domestic responsibilities.
The problem here is, they do not see the struggle that their DILS undergo both physically and mentally to support their families.
Why? Shouldn’t the same sense of responsibility prevail in in-laws too towards their families?
Shouldn’t in-laws understand the difficulties their DILS undergo and give their hands to be supportive of them?
Shouldn’t they sympathize with their daughters in law and stay unbiased?
Shouldn’t they take notice of their DILS’ mental well-being too?
7. In-Laws Don’t Understand That Their DILS Could Feel HOME-SICK Too
It is not uncommon to see in-laws showing their despair when their daughters in law express their wish to visit their parents.
I don’t understand, what is wrong in it?
Wouldn’t DILS feel home-sick too? Wouldn’t they miss their parents too?
Why do parents-in-law not like it when their DILS go to their parents place?
Why do they challenge their DILS with their restrictions and mindless comments?
Why? Would they not like it when their daughters visit them after their marriage?
Such instances make the DILS feel sick to their stomachs and cause undue inhibitions in them.
Shouldn’t overlooked problems of daughters in law like this need some refurbishment?
8. In-Laws Remain UNBOTHERED Of Their DILS’ Suggestions
Daughters in law could have their suggestions and view-points too. The problem is the in-laws’ lack of ability to understand this.
Say a mother-in-law decides to go to their relatives’ place and asks her daughter in law to get ready.
How would the daughter in law feel in such a case if she is having a different program on the same day?
Shouldn’t the MIL take her DIL’s word before making the decision?
That said, shouldn’t in-laws make efforts to hear their DILS out?
Shouldn’t they understand that they cannot feed their decisions on their daughters in law without listening to their views?
Do you not see this as one of the overlooked problems of daughters in law?
9. In-Laws Don’t Understand The CONCEPT Of Their DILS’ Private Space
Is it wrong if daughters in law dedicate some space and time for themselves?
How would they feel when their in-laws don’t respect it and cramp their time with other tasks?
Say a daughter in law is spending her time doing puja. Wouldn’t she feel bad when her mother in law intervenes with her for some other work?
Shouldn’t in-laws understand that their DILS could have their personal space too? Shouldn’t they be respectful of the fact?
What do you think?
10. In-Laws FAIL To Understand The RIGHTS Of The DILS
What most in-laws fail to realize is that their DILS have equal rights and say over things in their families.
Just because they are DILS, do in-laws forget that they are a part of their family and wives to their son?
Shouldn’t they understand that their DILS are entitled to express their opinions and practice independence?
Why don’t in-laws provide the space that their DILS deserve?
Shouldn’t in-laws quit their restrictions-setting behaviour over their DILS?
I feel this remains an unnoticed problem of all times for the DILS in this society. Shouldn’t this change for the better?
11. Overpowering In-Laws CONTROL Their Son Unbothered Of Their DILS’ Life
Instead of welcoming the DILS with their open arms and making them a part of their families, overpowering in-laws make it more difficult for the DILS by going against them.
Why is it that they try to influence their son to gain advantage over their DILS?
Shouldn’t they, as matured people, facilitate a good environment for both their Son and DILS to live their new lives happily with each other?
Why do most in-laws adopt CONTROL instead of INCLUSIVENESS over their DILS with the help of their son?
Why don’t they understand the consequences of their actions over their DILS?
Isn’t it high time for a change on this front?
12. In-Laws INTERFERE In Matters Concerning Their Son And DILS Mindlessly
Most parents in law fail to understand the private and personal space that exists between their son and DILS.
Overlooking this fact, what happens when in-laws try to intervene in matters personal to the husband and wife duo?
Say, a DIL and her spouse is having an argument. In such a case, what would happen when their in-laws interfere in their discussion?
Would it be right of them to do so? Shouldn’t they know their boundaries?
Do you not think such behaviour of the in-laws could cause a lot of trouble for the DILS?
13. Some In-Laws IMPEDE The Private Life That Exists Between Their DILS And Their Son
Say a mother in law enters the private space of her son and DIL without knocking on their doors. Would that even look sensible?
Shouldn’t the MIL understand the disruption that she would be creating for the latter?
Do you not think such things could hamper the happiness of the DILS?
Does it not mean, in-laws sometimes overlook the repercussions of their mindless actions?
14. Most In-Laws Don’t See Their DILS’ NEED For Financial Independence
I have seen a couple of parents restricting their DILS from working. But what I don’t understand is, shouldn’t DILS be making their personal choices on this front?
Why should they fall victim to their in-laws’ unintelligent demands?
But as we all know, in a country like ours, where Social Conditioning is rampant, the well-conditioned DILS are forced to abide by their in-laws’ words.
Is it not high time that in-laws realize the impact of their restrictions?
Shouldn’t they understand the need for their DILS’ financial independence?
Here, I would also like to appreciate those in-laws who understand their DILS needs for financial stability and freedom. Shouldn’t they be taken as an example in this case?
15. In-Laws ASSUME That Their DILS Are Their Default Domestic-Helpers
By default, most in-laws assume that their DILS should take care of all their house-hold chores no matter what and take them for granted.
Isn’t that sickening?
By expecting their DILS to toil hard for their families, in-laws don’t understand the respect and dignity that their DILS deserve!
Shouldn’t in-laws at least treat their DILS as equals and respect them?
When will in-laws shed their stereotypes?
Shouldn’t they understand that their actions could evoke their DILS wrath?
16. In-Laws FORCE Their Views On Their DILS Without Their Consent
Most of the time, daughters in law are not given an option to make a decision. Do you know why?
Parents-in-laws make their decisions and force them on their DILS without seeing the necessity to ask the latter.
By doing so, in-laws not only disrespect their DILS but also take them for granted.
Say a daughter in law is forced to go by bus by her in-laws while she is not used to it. Wouldn’t she feel bad?
Don’t their actions cause problems for their DILS who compromise on their way of doing things unwillingly?
17. In-Laws Do Not Understand The Responsibilities Of A DAUGHTER
As daughters, women are entitled to support their parents both physically and financially.
That said, why don’t in-laws understand that their DILS are equally responsible towards their parents?
Why do they keep restricting their DILS from doing things for their parents?
I have seen in-laws who crib about their DILS giving their salary to their parents. What is wrong if they do so? When in-laws could expect their son to support them financially, what is wrong if their DIL’s parents expect the same of their daughters too?
By posing challenges like these, in-laws remain a threat to the DILS-parents relationships. Shouldn’t this situation change for the better?
18. In-Laws Don’t Make Efforts To TREAT Their DILS As Their Family
As a daughter in law, I have experienced this strange hesitation to ask things out to my in-laws. Be it while eating or shopping, I find myself stopped by an array of inhibitions that enter to rule my head.
Does it not mean daughters in law do not feel INCLUSIVE in their marital homes?
Does it not mean in-laws should facilitate a comfortable environment for their DILS to shoo away their inhibitions and hesitations?
Shouldn’t they make efforts to make their DILS feel at HOME?
On a broader perspective, When in-laws realize this fact, they could save their DILS from straining their mental health! Don’t you agree?
A lot of problems in In-Laws and DILS Relationship could be avoided when the former as elders, understand and make efforts to facilitate a comfortable ambiance for their DILS. The more they understand their DILS, the more deeper their bond would become! Don’t you think so?
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