Do you have social anxiety around in laws? If yes, it truly doesn’t help being uncomfortable in your in-laws presence.
Giving up on your freedom/space because of your in-laws cannot be an option, so better deal with it. This blog will help you.
Do You Have Social Anxiety Around In Laws – 13 Warning Signs!
Have you ever caught yourself growing conscious in front of your in-laws?
Be it the time you spend with your in-laws alone OR the times you are with them in a group, if you find yourself plagued psychologically & forget to be yourself, you are affected by social anxiety.
Don’t worry, the following signs will allow you to ascertain your position easily. Take charge of the situation right away!
You Are Not Able To Do Things In Front Of Your In-Laws, You Would Love To Do Otherwise
Suppose you are someone who loves watching cricket.
The T20 season is on but you avoid going to the main hall to watch television just because your in-laws are around. Does it not mean you feel awkward to be around them?
Or let’s say you are basking under the Sun rays on your lawn enjoying a hot cup of morning coffee; on seeing your in-laws coming, you quickly exit the place.
Is it not because you even feel crippled to strike a casual conversation with them?
Does that not mean you have social anxiety around your in-laws?
You Are Not Able To Take A Stand For Yourself Before Your In-Laws
Let’s say there is a discussion going on between you, your spouse, and your in-laws.
You inform your in-laws that you would be visiting your parents but your in-laws are not happy about it.
Suppose they pass undesirable remarks about your decision and you feel extremely angry inside; the sad part though is, you hesitate to take a stand for yourself.
You are not able to handle the situation assertively; justifying your stance looks harder though you are not wrong in any way.
You choose to be on mute because deep inside you are afraid of being JUDGED by your in-laws.
Does it not mean you are socially anxious in front of your in-laws?
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You Are Not Able To Talk Freely With Anyone Around Your In-Laws
How about your phone ringing when you are having a discussion with your in-laws?
Maybe it is a work-related call OR your parents calling to check on you.
In such a case, do you hesitate to take the call, becoming conscious of your in-laws’ presence?
Even if you do, do you face difficulties talking freely?
If yes, it is indeed a sign of having social anxiety around your in-laws.
You Feel Awkward To Enter The Room Where Your In-Laws Are Sitting
Let’s say you are working in your room and suddenly you realize you are thirsty.
Your water bottle is empty, so you have to go to the kitchen to fetch water.
But you feel odd because your in-laws are sitting in the hall and you have to cross them to get water.
Tell me, isn’t that a clear indicator that you are socially anxious?
High time you challenge yourself and break such roadblocks!
You Face Difficulty Talking To Your Spouse In Front Of Them!
Isn’t it natural for a wife to talk, open up, and share her suggestions with her spouse wherever required? But what if she goes tongue-tied in front of her in-laws?
Consider the following scenario –
Say your spouse is drinking water quite often while eating; you want to stop him from doing it because it is not good for him. But you don’t make an effort, growing cautious of your in-laws presence.
Here, do you not think your behaviour signifies social anxiety around your in-laws?
You Are Not Able To Cook Without Inhibitions In The Presence Of Your In-Laws
Say you are someone who requires your own space and time to cook.
Be it chopping vegetables OR preparing a dish, you want to be all by yourself, without your in-laws’ presence or intervention; for you fear being judged by them.
Shouldn’t such an attitude be attributed to self-doubting & social anxiety?
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You Are Not Able To Shop At Leisure With Your In-Laws Around
Let’s say you are someone who takes a lot of time to shop clothes; you are choosy by nature.
But while shopping with your in-laws, you hurry up and try to finish your shopping as quickly as possible. You pick some random stuff and rush the billing as well.
You are intent on cutting short your shopping expedition because you are not comfortable around your in-laws.
Doesn’t that point out that you are socially phobic in the presence of your in-laws?
You Refrain From Offering Suggestions To Your In-Laws
Say there is a family discussion going on around your sister-in-laws’ wedding; but you withhold yourself from sharing your opinions.
You wonder, “What if my in-laws look down at my ideas?”
“What if they humiliate me?”
In that case, even if your suggestion is worth a million-dollars, it is reserved for nothing because you cling on to your inhibition of being judged; of being humiliated.
Does it not prove that you are a socially sensitive person?
You Feel Uncomfortable Eating With Your In-laws
Every time you sit to have your lunch OR dinner with your in-laws, do you feel strange?
Do you feel being watched all the time? Do you even hesitate to ask for extra food?
If yes, no doubt that you have social anxiety around in laws. High time you understand and get it treated effectively!
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You Feel Uneasy Spending Time With Your In-Laws
Assuming your spouse is out on work and being a Sunday, you are put up with your in-laws in the house.
You don’t have any work to do, and your in-laws come to your room to spend some time with you.
In that case, if you feel like disappearing into the air and make plans desperately in your head to escape the situation somehow, it says a lot about your social anxiety.
Don’t worry, your condition isn’t uncommon, you could easily overcome it!
You Are Not Comfortable About Your Relatives Visiting Home When Your In-Laws Are Around
Suppose your uncle and aunt visit you all of a sudden and you are feeling all insecure.
You fear what they will discuss with your in-laws. OR what the latter would talk to them!
Does that not mean you are socially anxious?
You Feel Discomfited When You Attend Family Gatherings With Your In-Laws
Let’s say you are attending your cousin’s marriage with your in-laws and find yourself trapped in your relatives’ group.
Considering your insensitive relatives posing a lot of questions to you in front of your in-laws, you choke, unable to tackle the situation wisely.
Such are clear indicators that you are socially anxious around your in-laws!
You Feel Uncomfortable Talking To Others In Front Of Your In-Laws
Say you are a good bargainer and negotiator as well!
On one such occasion, while travelling with your in-laws, you notice the auto driver charging exorbitant fares.
Your usual-self that wouldn’t hesitate to lash out at the auto-driver for charging high, doesn’t show up because of your consciousness of being around your in-laws.
You don’t utter a word hence and allow your in-laws to pay the driver fearing that you will be judged by the latter.
Such is a sure sign that you are a socially phobic person. So better take charge of the situation straight away!
Dear DIL, BE Yourself, You Have Nothing to Lose!
By now, you would have understood the fact that Social Anxiety for sure is a mind disorder.
To overcome this problem, fight those inner-blocks like fear and inhibitions and make peace with your surroundings.
That way you turn into a more mindful, good, and confident woman.
If this blog helped you deal with your social anxiety, don’t forget to post your thoughts in the comments below!