Are we all aware that there are expectations from an Indian daughter in law too?
I know it sounds shocking for a society dunk in patriarchy but yes, being a DIL myself, I have numerous expectations from my in-laws – Hold on, they are reasonable enough and heartfelt unlike what you think – If you wish to know more, go on reading 🙂
DO YOU KNOW There Are Expectations from an Indian Daughter In Law – 29 Honest Confessions YOU MUST KNOW!
Here I have come up with 29 important revelations that speaks a lot about the emotions and feelings of every Indian daughter-in-law – I Strongly Feel no one should Miss Reading THIS Blog!
1. It Would Great If Indian In-Laws Treat Their DIL Like Their Own Daughter!
Is it wrong of a daughter-in-law to expect her in-laws to treat her like their own daughter?
As parents, Would in-laws be able to stand it if their own daughter is treated like someone else in her marital home?
For someone who has left her family to be with her spouse and in-laws, shouldn’t the latter understand their DIL’s position and acknowledge her with at least a little amount of love?
As a human being, do you not see this as one of the MOST Valuable and Genuine expectations from an Indian daughter in law?
2. HOW Amazing it Would BE When In-Laws Stand Supportive Of Their DIL’s Career?
With so many advancements and developments at this age, it is no wonder that almost every woman out there is working.
That said, shouldn’t in-laws accept their working daughter-in-law with all their heart and stay supportive of her professional growth?
Contrarily, if they do not like the idea of their daughter-in-law working, isn’t it high time for them to broaden their mindset?
3. If Only In-Laws Start Believing Their DIL And Not Outsiders!
In India, it is common to observe a lot of insensitive relatives creating conflicts in almost every family in the name of the Daughter-in-law.
In such cases, is it not important for the in-laws to take a stand for their DIL and not let their sense evaporate to such external influences – EVEN If they do so, shouldn’t they realise they are giving up on their family’s well-being?
When will in-laws even understand this?
Do you not think this is one of the most genuine expectations from a daughter in law?
4. Why Don’t In-Laws Be Friendly With Their Daughter In Law?
Maintaining a Congenial relationship with a daughter-in-law is always desirable considering the wellness and happiness of the family, isn’t it?
When in-laws understand that their stubborn behaviour only aggravates problems in the family, and also considering the mindset of the modern-age women, shouldn’t they change their stances towards their dil?
If at all they change, it would in many ways improve their relationship quotient with their DIL – Isn’t that awesome?
5. If In-Laws Be Appreciative Of Their DIL’s Gesture OR Efforts…
When Daughters-in-law make efforts to cook and help their in-laws out with things, wouldn’t it be great when the latter acknowledge their work?
Just a small gesture like “thank you” could work wonders for their relationship – Is this not a basic expectation?
6. When In-Laws Accept Their DIL As She Is…
Be it the way the daughter-in-law behaves OR dresses, unless and until they find it offensive, I don’t think in-laws should not make it a point of complaint.
As long as their daughter-in-law is respectful enough, where comes the need to condition her?
I feel this is one of the genuine expectations from an Indian daughter in law – Don’t you think so?
7. It Would Be Awesome When In-Laws Respect Their DIL’s Personal Space And Time!
Every woman has a private space and time which she never likes to be disrupted.
When such is the case, how could a daughter-in-law stand it when her in-laws do not respect her personal space and time?
Let’s say a daughter is painting during her free-time. And her mother-in-law hampers her time by assigning with some other task that doesn’t require immediate attention – Wouldn’t that put off the DIL obviously?
If her in-laws keep ignoring their dil’s space and time all the time like this, how would it be for the dil – Do you not think that Indian In-laws should understand this?
8. If Only In-Laws Start Respecting The Private Space Their DIL Shares With Their Son…
How would a daughter-in-law feel when her in-laws suddenly barge into the room when she is spending some private time with her spouse – Wouldn’t it be discourteous of them to do such a thing?
For sure, this is something crucial In-laws needs to realize and it is called a husband and wife privacy!
9. If Only In-Laws Stop Comparing Their DIL To Their Daughter…
No matter how much in-laws love their daughter, they should ensure not to compare their DIL with the latter.
Be it the way their DIL behaves OR cooks OR dresses, they should accept her the way she is.
Shouldn’t in-laws understand that their DIL could never be like their daughter?
Don’t you think instances like these could annoy the daughter-in-law easily and dampen their relationship even further – High time that in-laws understand this and start working on retaining the positivity in their relationship.
10. If Only In-Laws Ensure Not To Enter The Personal Space Their DIL Shares With Their Son…
Would any woman appreciate it if her in-laws disrupt the personal space she shares with her spouse?
How would she stand it if her in-laws intervene unnecessarily in personal matters concerning her and her spouse – Would that even look good?
Shouldn’t in-laws maintain their boundaries in such cases?
Do you not think this is one of the basic expectations from an Indian daughter in law?
In case you need help with interfering in-laws, I have written a whole blog on that for your benefit – You could check it here 🙂
11. If Only In-Laws Stop Manipulating Their Son Against Their DIL…
A lot of problems ensue in families where in-laws try a lot to influence their son.
At any cost, overpowering in-laws should understand that provoking their son against their daughter-in-law unnecessarily would only lead to unpleasant situations in the family.
In the long run, shouldn’t they realize that their actions could hamper their family’s happiness and peace?
As long as the DIL is genuine, I am 100% sure that she would expect her in-laws to maintain their demeanour in this regard!
12. If Only In-Laws Encourage Their Son’s Independence Instead Of Being Overbearing!
Once their son is married, in-laws should try to set their boundaries clear with both their son and daughter-in-law.
Instead if they try to overpower and control their son’s independence, it would only worsen situations and existing relationships in the family.
And I feel this is one of the serious expectations from an Indian daughter in law – Do you not agree?
13. IIn-Laws Should Accept It When Their DIL Does Things For Her Parents…
What is wrong if a daughter-in-law supports her parents financially and buys them stuff they require?
Is it bad of her to be responsible towards her parents?
In such a case, shouldn’t in-laws be supportive of her actions?
That is why, Indian DILS wish their in-laws to stop complaining when they assume responsibility for their own parents.
14. In-Laws Should Encourage Their DIL To Take Care Of Her Parents Too
As a daughter, a woman should be duty-bound towards her parents too.
That said, shouldn’t in-laws understand that their daughter-in-law has an equal responsibility towards taking care of her parents as well?
This article from change.org talks about every married couple’s responsibility to take care of both side parents – I think everyone should read this!
And I feel this is one of the major expectations from an Indian daughter in law, isn’t that fair enough?
15. In-Laws Should Not Demand Gifts And Money From Their DIL’s Parents
In-laws should realize the stuggles of their DIL’s parents too.
Instead when in-laws demand money, luxuries, and expensive gifts from their daughter in law’s parents, they not just shatter latter’s peace but also their own respect.
16. In-Laws Should Encourage Their DIL’s Independence and Freedom
From being locked up inside her home to marking her space in the outside world, a woman has outgrown herself over the years.
That said, should her growth face a regression in the form of her overpowering in-laws who take control of her freedom and independence?
Instead, why don’t in-laws make efforts to give their DIL enough space to function independently and confidently – Do you think an indian daughter in law having such an expectation is wrong?
17. In-Laws Should Respect Their DIL’s Views And Suggestions
Every woman is an individual who will have her own viewpoints and opinions..
That said, shouldn’t in-laws provide that space for their DIL to open up her suggestions?
Is it not necessary for the in-laws to include their dil while making decisions for their family?
18. In-Laws Should Understand That Their Son Has Equal Responsibility Towards His In-Laws Too
Like how In-Laws expect their Daughter-in-law to take care of them, is it wrong if the DIL expects her spouse to take care of her parents too?
Why don’t In-Laws understand the significance of this in India?
This is one of the major expectations I hear from my fellow women.
19. In-Laws Should Not Force Their DIL Into Conception
When in-laws impose their opinions on their daughter in law over her conception, it takes a major toll on the latter’s mental health.
As experienced people, elders could offer reasonable advice and suggestions to their children but what when they overdo things?
Baby planning is something pertaining to the husband and wife duo. So over-interference in such affairs by the in-laws will only increase problems in their relationships.
High time that in-laws consider this expectation from their DIL quite seriously!
20. In-Laws Should Provide Right Guidance And Counsel When Their DIL Goes Wrong…
As Elders, In-Laws have every right and experience to show proper direction to their daughters-in-law.
Be it cooking OR finance OR anywhere they think she goes wrong, in-laws could enlighten her through their appropriate and timely guidance.
When their apprehensions are relevant & genuine enough, why don’t they offer guidance to her instead of complaining her every action?
Do you not think this is one of the genuine expectations from an Indian daughter in law?
21. In-Laws Should Not Unnecessarily Indulge In Their DIL And Son’s Finance
It is important for in-laws to draw the line when it comes to their Son and DIL’s finances.
As long as they are economical and prudent enough on their spending habits, why should in-laws involve themselves in it?
Tell me, does it not look like a fair expectation from an Indian DIL?
22. Indian In-Laws Should Give Up On The Pride They Wear As A MAN’S Parents
No matter how much we grow in time, the concept of GROOM’S PARENTS PRIDE never fades in India.
Why is it that a man’s parents are considered important than the other – Shouldn’t this mindset change completely?
When both men and women are financially sound and qualified equally, why bring in this parental discrimination for women?
Is this not a rightful expectation from a dil?
23. In-Laws Should Not Treat Their DIL Like A Mere House Help
Every woman is an individual who is educationally, traditionally, and morally qualified to live independently in this society.
Why is it then that she is being treated differently and seen as a mere person who is meant for doing house-hold chores only?
Shouldn’t this patriarchal mindset come to an end?
24. In-Laws Should RESPECT Their DIL’s Emotions And Difficulties Too..
Every daughter-in-law faces her own set of challenges both on personal and professional front that induces a lot of emotions, fear, and inhibitions in her.
Before allowing such a deluge to take shape and hamper her sanity, Shouldn’t Indian in-laws should understand their daughter-in-law better?
Shouldn’t they see her as human being who deserves a HOME rid of hostility and clashes?
25. In-Laws Should Keep Their DIL On Par With Their Son
When most of the in-laws treat their son like a kid, how in the world COULD they expect their daughter-in-law to be responsible enough?
Shouldn’t they understand that their dil is also an evolving adult JUST like their son?
That said, why should they treat her like an outsider who is not complying with their typical-in-laws-expectations?
26. In-Laws Should Never Put Down Their DIL Before Others
Differences in relationships are not uncommon and in-laws should accept the differences they share with their daughter in law.
They should also understand that cribbing and complaining about their DIL to neighbours and insensitive relatives would only lead to bitter consequences in the family.
Whatever problem they might have with their DIL, they should sort it out among themselves,is it not fair enough?
27. In-Laws Should Take Care Of Their DIL Too…
If a daughter-in-law could give her best to take care of everything and everyone at home, is it not in our values to reciprocate her actions?
A simple smile OR thank you OR a tiny helping gesture from the in-laws would strengthen their relationship like ever 🙂
28. In-Laws Should Not Force Their Opinions on Their DIL
It is important for in-laws to understand that their DIL is not someone they can control as they like.
A dil is an individual too, who can pursue her freedom, preferences, and choices, isn’t it?
When In-laws understand this and try their maximum to not impose their decisions on their DIL, things will get better in the family!
29. In-Laws Should Never Dig Into Their DIL’s Personal Life And Things…
Is it a good practice to dig into others’ personal life in general – No, Isn’t it?
When there is absolutely no necessity, I don’t think in-laws should pester their dil over their personal affairs. That said, it is better if in-laws maintain their boundaries.
Make Your Daughter-In-Law Feel At Home – She is Your Daughter Too!
Every daughter-in-law wishes for a marital home where they can be themselves with friendly parents-like in-laws around.
Patriarchy, societal stereotypes, ego and a lot more factors doesn’t allow it, which is why we should start spreading a word or two about Happy homes for Daughters-in-law.
If you really align with this vision of creating more peaceful and happier marital homes for daughters-in-law like never before, share this blog in your circles 🙂
Also, feel free to post your thoughts in the comments section below 🙂